Family Planning Wahala

Debate: Failed Family Planning.Who Is To Be Blamed More,the Wife Or The Husband??

So I read a story of a man and decided to share. A man and his wife was said to have just put to bed the 5th child. This child was unplanned for as they had already stopped having children. She narrated to us how her husband was furious when she told him she was pregnant. He blamed her for not taking the necessary precautions. This brought a debate between us, who actually is responsible for an unplanned pregnancy. Is it majorly on the woman who knows her cycle and carries the pregnancy but was still careless or on both the man and wife for not working closely together to ensure what needed to be done is done

So these are some of the comments of people on the post To give a comprehensive answer to the question, a plethora of determinants must be considered. One of them is "cost". Others are the "pain" and "risk" involved. After a detailed consideration of the various birth control techniques, I have resolved that the man is to blame because male condom use is the cheapest means of birth control. Male condoms are usually given as souvenir at health awareness programs and campaigns. They're displayed for sale at the counters of malls and stores. Spermicide is more expensive and the procedure is not without side effects. Vasectomy is painful and there are cases of inability to reverse the male to his status quo. Pills and contraceptive implants can affect the female reproductive system negatively. The use of condom is the birth control method that you're sure of stopping if the uneventful happens. For instance, if you lose an only child or you discover through a DNA test that you're a victim of paternity fraud, you can always take off the condom and fill her up with white protein.

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The woman... There's a reason the significant effort of family planning is on the woman. The woman receives and if she's not willing or ready, the sender sends in vain. This is true most of the time

Another comments here Funny question. If we move beyond idealism and embrace the unique socio-cultural milieu that is our harsh reality, then the wife should be held responsible. Frankly, this shouldn't even be a debate since the wife gets to do the work of incubating a baby, most times to the detriment of her mind, body and well-being. That alone plus so many other factors that are too numerous to mention now are enough for any woman to take charge of her life and protect herself from unplanned pregnancies. These days, practically all family planning methods for women are easily accessible and affordable. Furthermore, in many hospitals, the husband's consent is no longer required as a prerequisite for family planning.

this brought back memories from our neighbors. Just one beautiful morning, I and mum heard our neighbors insulting each other. The wife be like " Nah inside poverty you come give me belle again after 5 children, I tell you say I no fit do family planning for the next couple of month because of no money. You come put prick inside me, now I don get belle" The wife was cursing and insulting the husband but the man never said a word. Well the woman later went to hospital for pregnancy test, but funny thing she wasn't pregnant. She had typhoid reason why her menses delayed. For me is a collective responsibility.

They commited the " CRIME " together , so the should both pay for it      4 Likes

So I and my friends went to visit a friend that just put to bed her 5th child. This child was unplanned for as they had already stopped having children. She narrated to us how her husband was furious when she told him she was pregnant. He blamed her for not taking the necessary precautions. This brought a debate between us, who actually is responsible for an unplanned pregnancy. Is it majorly on the woman who knows her cycle and carries the pregnancy but was still careless or on both the man and wife for not working closely together to ensure what needed to be done is done The man no well, na who knack the woman? The pikin fall from sky ? The man should take responsibility, period. If na me I go just take responsibility no be blame game. I remember the day my gf told me she no longer on birth pills, Omo! I switch mode to coitus interruptus. If u no want wahala, why look for one; and then say I no want wahala. 7 Likes 2 Shares

From the comments I can tell that most of you are not married. The woman is to blame Let's look at it from this angle If the husband want a child and the wife says she is not ready. Do you the woman will not get pregnant no matter how many times they make love. But on the other hand if the wife want a child (in most case they don't tell their husband they want a child) and the husband says he is not ready. The one time they make love the wife will get pregnant. And the wife will blame it on the husband as if once you have given birth to the number of children you want no more love making for the man. The married men and women in the house can confirm

Both the man and the woman are to be blame for me. A woman must know how to calculate her menstral circle so as not to get pregnant easily The man should apply withdrawal method though its not easily if you may ask me, or better still use condom to cut the long story short but you won't get 100% satisfaction with it though

They will both be blamed. It’s a partnership and both husband and wife should have joined hands to ensure that the wife doesn’t take in. They will bear their cross and responsibility jointly. What are your thoughts on these??? Kindly comment below. Thanks for reading!!!!